The festive season can be stressful for anyone with the responsibility of a family. For a carer of a loved one with an eating disorder – it can be simply filled with dread and fear.
It may feel like everyone else seems to be looking forward to the cooking and eating of elaborate meals… whereas you find yourself just wishing that the festive season was over before it has even begun.
The truth is that the festive season does not have to be filled with worry and anxiety. With a little careful planning and some agreed expectations from all, you can celebrate and enjoy being with your family. Thinking ahead will allow your child to feel safe in the knowledge that you are in control of the day, and that you have considered some of the potential difficulties for both them, and you.
Coping on the day- plan ahead
It’s a good idea to plan the running order of the day. Then you can identify potentially stressful moments, and have a strategy in place should any difficulties arise. A potentially problematic time might be after the main meal of the day- ensure you have a plan in place on how to support your loved one. This could mean that you, or someone they trust, can be with them in this difficult time. If you are guests in another person’s house, ensure there will be private space or room.
It is unrealistic to plan every minute of the day and neither should you- however identifying potentially difficult areas will help you all in the long run.
Coping emotionally –
Be kind to yourself
If everything does not go to plan- do not blame yourself. You cannot account for every eventuality so if things go wrong or not to plan, then take a deep breath and try and to get back on track. Remember that you are doing your best, and caring for someone with a mental illness can be extremely difficult and trying.
Take a deep breath and count to 10
Christmas can be stressful for families, with or without an eating disorder. When tensions rise we can react too quickly to something or someone and very rapidly go on to regret it. In these circumstances – everyone will benefit from some breathing space. If possible, form a pact with your child where if things get challenging and tensions rise both of you will take a deep breath, count to 10 (or a higher number if necessary!) and move forward together.
Care UK services
Care UK specialise in eating disorder treatment for children and teenagers. We also offer services to women with severe and enduring disorders. If you would like more information about our eating disorder treatment and care please email us here at [email protected] or call us on 01453 767 093. We’d be happy to discuss your options with you.
For more information about teenage eating disorders and effectiveeating disorders treatment,please go to www.careukeatingdisorders.com, email us at [email protected] or call us on 0208 906 0885.
